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Find out how the Church can bring an added dimension to your special day...

Arranging Your Wedding in Church

The moment when a couple face each other and make promises about spending the rest of their life together is a moving as well as a joyful event and it is our desire to make your special day just that - very special.

Your local church can help organise the service - feel free to ask questions. We also want to help you understand the meaning of the promises you will be making.

The process of getting married begins from the moment you let us know that you would like to consider getting married in Church.

Firstly...

...Congratulations! You want to get married and you are thinking of having your service in your local Church. First of all there are some questions we have to ask:

Are you qualified to get married in your local Church?

It is now possible for people to get married in a Church where they have (or have had) a reasonable family connection. To make it easier, the Church Council has drawn up a Policy which lays out the situation clearly. Click here to find out where you can get married

Have you been married before?

If you have been married before, it may be possible for you to have your wedding in the Church and you need to check with your local Church is this is possible for you. Some Churches see this differently from others and you need to check the situation. However, if that is not possible, your local Church would be delighted to have a service of Blessing for you and you can ask them for details of this.

What date and time are you planning?

Your local church will do their best to cater for whatever date and time you would like to book for your service, but it may not always be possible due to holidays and the availability of the people who are needed for your service. The best thing is to suggest a time and date as soon as possible and ask for it to be booked in the diary.

Getting Your Banns Read

Once you have booked the place, date and time of your service, we will ask you to fill out a Banns Form. Getting married is a legal occasion when the Minister who marries you will act as the Registrar. So it is vital (for all legal reasons) that we have all of your details down correctly from the start. If one of you lives in another parish, then you will have to arrange to see the Vicar of that parish so that you can fill in a Banns Form in that parish.

The Banns are an announcement in the Church that you are intending to get married and lets everyone know - as well as being a legal requirement to check you are telling the truth! The Banns are usually read in one of the morning services of the parishes concerned and you do not need to go to hear them being read – but it is quite nice to do so!

You will need to check when the Banns are being read in the other parish and bring a Certificate from the Vicar of that Parish to prove they have been read. It may sound a bit complicated, but it does become clear.

How Much?

Getting married in church is not cheap, but it involves a lot of different things, including the administration costs of the wedding, the Minister, the Organist and Choir, the Verger, as well as a contribution towards the running of the building and a lot more. Some aspects of the cost are "optional", such as having the bells rung or flowers arranged for you - but your local Church will be able to give you a full breakdown of the cost of your wedding and when it all needs to be paid.

Getting Ready

Once everything has been booked, we will arrange for you to come to see the Minister who will be officiating at your wedding and some other times when we can help you understand the nature of marriage and the promises you will be making at your wedding. There will also be a Wedding Rehearsal, usually a couple of days before the wedding, when we go through the service so that you will be confident of what to say and where to stand on the big day.

Planning the Service

You will need to start planning the details of your wedding service. Click here for information from one of our parishes. There are lots of resources for your wedding service on the Internet. Try this site: www.yourchurchwedding.org

Our prayer is that God will bless you in your new life together and will equip you to have the most abundant relationship possible!

Further Notes

Online stories

September 2012 - Interest in church weddings up nearly 50 per cent - CofE
May 2012 - Yes, marriage is the 'gold standard’ - Telegraph
Apr 2012 - The Revd Sam Wells on marriage (video clip) - WRAL.com
Sep 2011 - A happy, successful wedding can be a true test of reliance on friends – and God - The Guardian
Apr 2011 - Online video meets increased demand for information on church weddings - The CofE website

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